My name is Simrit Singh and I welcome you here to my therapy and healing work. Below is a little bit about myself and my background. If you have any further queries, please do not hesitate to contact me. 🦋
"I'll spread my wings and I'll learn how to fly. I'll do what it takes til I touch the sky" ~ K.Clarkson
I am a qualified Art Psychotherapist (M.A) and counsellor. My training at the University of Roehampton was based on a psychodynamic approach informed by Jungian analytic psychology. I work flexibly, using a person-centered and integrative approach, drawing inspiration from a range of perspectives, focused on a strong therapeutic relationship and the development of self-awareness, and in art psychotherapy sessions, through the creative use of art. In addition, I have a special interest in other alternative therapies and I am currently working on a few so that these too can be incorporated into my private practice. I also hold a B.A. (Hons) degree in Psychology.
My particular interests is in grief & loss, depression, anxiety, attachment issues, trauma, narcissistic abuse, mindfulness, and reconnecting the fragmented parts of our being. I am always inquisitive and interested in the relationship between mind-body-soul through mainstream science and other alternative, holistic & spiritual healing modalities, and listening to our innate guidance, to touch the deeper depth of who we really are. Wherever I am working it is always with warmth and empathy, creating a safe and nurturing environment that offers clients the support they need towards their healing, change and growth.
I have experience working with children, adolescents and adults with a wide range of mental health difficulties, spanning over 15 years. I have experience in a variety of settings including: inpatient clinics and hospitals, primary and secondary schools, children & family work, children and young people within children's homes and semi-independent housing, young offenders, women’s refuges; working specifically with women and children who have experienced domestic violence/abuse. I have also facilitated and delivered workshops on subjects pertinent to the client group, as well as running group art sessions within children's secure units and women's refuges.
PERSONAL EXPERIENCE - MY STORY
It is important to be able to share and receive appropriate support from someone who can understand one's pain and trauma or have gone through similar experiences. I have personally experienced bereavement and loss, like many of us have, so I am able to empathise with those who may feel lost, in pain, despair and overall grief, and this can affect us deeply in a number of ways.
I, myself, have gone through trauma and childhood abuse and always determined to seek self-growth & development, and healing. Almost 20 years ago, over a period of 8 years, I was in therapy with an amazing UKCP accredited psychotherapist (I also went on to use the same psychotherapist during my MA training- mandatory during the course of the studies). I also worked with an incredible empathic clinical psychologist to help me deal with a social phobia & anxiety I had at the time. The therapy work coincided at the time my childhood abuse disclosure was accepted by the Crown Prosecution Service and brought to a UK Court in order to seek justice against the perpetrator. This in itself was incredibly empowering but a difficult period, yet healing for me, both emotionally and spiritually. And for a further 7 years I went on a journey of deep self-discovery, insight, and exploring alternative ways of healing, seeing and developing myself further. With the support of therapy and self-work, this brought to pass a different outlook and perception, and a change of attitude on how my life looked from the inside out. Empathy and compassion developed. I was able to then empathise through my own experiences and thus support and empower my own clients who experienced similar childhood traumas over the coming years. It is always rewarding to work with others in this area.
I also have a special interest in narcissistic abuse. A survivor myself in recent years from being in a relationship with a narcissist soon after the death of someone extremely dear to me and still grieving at the time, I am able to understand those who have gone through this particular kind of experience, abuse and trauma. I literally became a "mess" during and the aftermath of both physical and emotional/psychological abuse. Feeling like I was going backwards in my own personal development as well as after working for many years with both children and women who had themselves gone through domestic abuse and violence, I now was a "victim". I could not believe I was in this situation myself! I did not recognise myself by the time I left the relationship, nor any of my friends and loved ones. Unless one understands narcissistic and sociopathic abuse and/or have gone through this unspeakable trauma, it is difficult for anyone to understand including other therapists, as I have experienced "It is imperative to speak to an expert who have possibly gone through this in order for the abuse to be fully understood" (*Christine Louis De Canonville). I decided to attend a support group that supported narcissistic abuse survivors, but I also received further counselling from a therapist who specialised in this area. This support can be life-saving. I have been blessed by meeting many amazing souls on this journey and still continue to, and always learning further.
The Narcissist Abuse section on this site will provide you with resources (videos & articles) and info into various insights and advice on different aspects and behaviours-tactics of a narcissist. One of the these may include any confidential information you tell them about your life/childhood which will inevitably and eventually be used against you (click here for further information: "smear campaigns"), especially if you decide to speak out your truth on their abuse or if you challenge them on their behaviour. This is a typical tactic of theirs, to divert any of their negative behaviour back onto you, and to discredit you in any way. Many of the articles and videos here can help you further towards your healing as well as validate your experiences, and also understand the legal standpoint should one be subject to any type of "coercive and controlling" behaviour. The latter U.K. Bill was brought into effect 2015. If need be, report any of the abuse to the Police, and if you are unable to press charges for any reason, it is advisable to get a Crime Reference Number from the Police (for future reference purposes) and contact relevant agencies so that this is reported and logged.
EDUCATOR & WORKSHOP FACILITATOR
Narcissism and narcissistic abuse is an extremely complex subject and topic to say the least, and requires full understanding and patience to make sense of how anti-social behaviour works (cluster B personalities) and how they possibly think and behave towards their targets ("narcissistic supplies"). My goal is to help educate and inform other related professionals and organisations whose main premise and aim is to support victims/survivors under their care, through our training workshops with a goal to better understand narcissistic abuse, as well as raising awareness as a whole. If you feel you or your organisation can benefit more on the subject of narcissism and narcissistic abuse, please me through the contact us page.