I am a counsellor and qualified Art Psychotherapist (M.A). My training at the University of Roehampton was based on a psychodynamic approach informed by Jungian analytic psychology. I work flexibly, using a person-centered and integrative approach, drawing inspiration from a range of perspectives, focused on a strong therapeutic relationship and the development of self-awareness, and in art psychotherapy sessions, through the creative use of art. In addition, I have a special interest in other alternative therapies and I am currently working on a few so that these too can be incorporated into my private practice. I also hold a B.A. (Hons) degree in Psychology. I am also a visual artist and painter.
My particular interests is in grief & loss, depression, anxiety, attachment issues, trauma, narcissistic abuse, mindfulness, and reconnecting the fragmented parts of our being. I am always inquisitive and interested in the relationship between mind-body-soul through mainstream science and other alternative, holistic & spiritual healing modalities, and listening to our innate guidance, to touch the deeper depth of who we really are. Wherever I am working it is always with warmth and empathy, creating a safe and nurturing environment that offers clients the support they need towards their healing, change and growth.
I have experience working with children, adolescents and adults with a wide range of mental health difficulties, spanning over 15 years. I have experience in a variety of settings including: inpatient clinics and hospitals, primary and secondary schools, children & family work, children and young people within children's homes and semi-independent housing, young offenders, women’s refuges; working specifically with women and children who have experienced domestic violence/abuse. I have also facilitated and delivered workshops on subjects pertinent to the client group, as well as running group art sessions within children's secure units and women's refuges.
PERSONAL EXPERIENCE - MY STORY
It is important to be able to share and receive appropriate support from someone who can understand one's pain and trauma or have gone through similar experiences. I have personally experienced bereavement and loss, like many of us have, so I am able to empathise with those who may feel lost, in pain, despair and overall grief, and this can affect us deeply in a number of ways.
I, myself, have gone through trauma and childhood abuse and always determined to seek self-growth & development, and healing. Personally, I never felt ashamed or guilt of what had happened to me but needed to talk and work with experts in the field, as well as research, to understand the effects of childhood trauma and abuse; how it affects both as a child and as an adult, if not healed, and to work through my experiences with a single focus to heal and moving forward. It takes time, but I knew it was vital to allow this time to heal further, to be able to live a happy and content and fulfilled life. Almost 20 years ago, over a period of 8 years, I was in therapy with an amazing UKCP accredited psychotherapist (I also went on to use the same psychotherapist during my MA training, as it was mandatory during the course of the training). I also worked with an incredible empathic clinical psychologist to help me deal with a social phobia & anxiety I had at the time. This was the time my childhood abuse was accepted and brought to a UK Court in order to seek justice against the perpetrator, 30 odd years later. This in itself was incredibly empowering but a difficult period, yet healing for me, both emotionally and spiritually. And for a further 7 years I went on a journey of deep self-discovery, insight, and exploring alternative ways of healing, seeing and developing myself further. With the support of therapy and self-work, this brought to pass a different outlook and perception, and a change of attitude on how my life looked from the inside out. Empathy and compassion developed. I was able to then empathise through my own experiences and thus support and empower my own clients who experienced similar childhood traumas over the coming years. It is always rewarding to work with others in this area.
I also have a special interest in narcissistic abuse. A survivor myself in recent years from being in a relationship with a narcissist soon after the death of someone extremely dear to me and still grieving at the time, I am able to understand those who have gone through this particular kind of experience, abuse and trauma. I literally became a "mess" during and the aftermath of both physical and emotional/psychological abuse. Feeling like I was going backwards, after working for many years with both children and women who had themselves gone through domestic abuse and violence, I now was a "victim". I could not believe I was in this situation myself! I did not recognise myself by the time I left the relationship, nor any of my friends and loved ones, who had known me for over 10-20 years. Unless one understands narcissistic and sociopathic abuse and/or have gone through this unspeakable trauma, it is difficult for anyone to understand including other therapists. "It is imperative to speak to an expert who have possibly gone through this in order for the abuse to be fully understood" (*Christine Louis De Canonville). So, I attended a support group that supported narcissistic abuse survivors, but I also received further counselling from a therapist who specialised in this area as well as other experts from this field. All of these can be life-savers, including connecting with those who attend similar groups, with incredible support and making new and amazing connections who "gets it". I have been blessed by meeting many amazing souls on this journey and still continue to, and always learning further. I recommend those who want to understand further on this subject to look into this subject.
The Narcissist Abuse section on this site will provide you resources (videos & articles) and info into various insights and advice on different aspects and behaviours-tactics of a narcissist. One of the these may include any confidential information you tell them about your life/childhood which will inevitably and eventually be used against you, especially if you decide to speak out your truth on their abuse or if you challenge them on their behaviour. This is a typical tactic of theirs (to divert any of their negative behaviour onto you, to discredit you in any way). Many of the articles and videos here can help you further towards your healing as well as validate your experiences, and also understand the legal standpoint should one be subject to any type of "coercive and controlling" behaviour. The latter U.K. Bill was brought into effect 2015. If need be, report any of the abuse to the Police, and if you are unable to press charges for any reason, it is advisable to get a Crime Reference Number from the Police (for future reference purposes) and contact relevant agencies so that this is reported and logged.
EDUCATOR & WORKSHOP FACILITATOR
I now work with other qualified therapists and individuals whom I met through specific organisations and support groups, as well as peers whom I studied with nearly 10 years ago, all of whom have a passion and interest in the area of narcissism. Narcissism and narcissistic abuse is an extremely complex subject and topic to say the least, and requires full understanding and patience to make sense of how anti-social behaviour works (cluster B personalities) and how they possibly think and behave towards their targets ("narcissistic supplies"). My peers and I will endeavour to help educate and inform other related professionals and organisations whose main premise and aim is to support victims/survivors under their care, through our training workshops with a goal to better understand narcissistic abuse, as well as raising awareness as a whole. If you feel you or your organisation can benefit from learning more about the subject on narcissism and narcissistic abuse, please contact us.
Remember: Wanting to speak out in truth does not make you an "attention-seeker" or "playing a victim" or "pathetic". Instead, speaking out makes you true to yourself without the shame and guilt of wanting what is right and best for you. Justice is a form of speaking your truth. We are here to listen and to support our clients. And we are here to aid in your growth and for the individuals to reconnect to their true self again, and more.